Adam has really wanted a baby for some time now. We have talked about it a lot, planned loosely, and have been excited. But last night I showed him what days next month I could get pregnant and asked him if he was ready and he said “Um, yeah, but I am intimidated.” So we talked. We have one beautiful child already. We are older now, and know what we are getting in to. When I got pregnant with Elijah, I was just 24, still in grad school, and though I knew a lot about birth and parenting, I was not so skilled in relationships. But now we are. For the most part.
I tried to talk him through it, and we discussed all the aspects of having a baby-financial, emotional, relational, etc… At the end he said he was excited, but thought we should wait a month to flush out all the toxins in our bodies. He asked me to google the best way to prepare for conceiving holistically. I did not find much, so if anyone has any resources that would be great. Every page I read basically said “eat well, exercise, take vitamins, try to reduce stress.” That does not sound so holistic and spiritual to me.
But he is right. My body may be somewhat ready, and could be even better in a month. But what about creating an environment for this baby/soul to come into that is peaceful, organized, and clear? It makes sense.
So, he called this morning to ask if we could do a month long cleanse. I have been thinking about it, and have decided it is a good idea. I rush into everything, always have WAY too much on my plate, so I think if we waited and consciously prepared ourselves we will have a much better time.
Still…it is hard not to want to get pregnant RIGHT NOW.
So as for our “cleanse,” here is what I plan on doing:
Exercising every other day for at least an hour.
Yoga class at least twice a week and every day on my own.
Lots of water and fresh foods (I eat very healthy anyways).
More protein (I am a vegetarian).
Continue to take prenatal vitamin.
Reduce Imuran med and consider going off my anxiety meds.
Do a few meditation programs.
Moving totally into this house and organizing things. I bought this house over a year ago, come on. I do think having a really clean, organized environment creates peace and promotes happiness.
I am going to add frequent updates on how I am doing with this plan so that I can motivate myself to keep up.
Onto the second thing that is really effecting me today. I just talked to a nurse at my doctors office and for the second time, she is telling me I can’t get pregnant until I come in and see the doctor. She was rude and talked to me as if I were an 18 year old drug addict. Yes, I have been on a benzodiazepine for a year and a half. Something my GI doctor prescribed me originally! This is a drug that helped me get healthy with my crohn’s during a very stressful time. I did not ask for it. I did everything I could take as little as possible each day. I am basically off of it.
On top of that, I have done extensive research on every drug I am on. I have spoken with a PhD in pharmacology about the specifics of the drugs I am on and how they relate to pregnancy. I have my master’s degree in freaking psychology! And so does my husband. And I am a birth doula. We are not ignorant, we are not going to get pregnant on it.
The nurse I spoke with yesterday went over everything with me, and said there was no reason I should come in, that it was fine to go ahead and try to get pregnant. But this new nurse today was just rude. I will not let any doctor give me permission to get pregnant when I am an intelligent, educated, responsible woman. Fyi, this is Kaiser, and I can’t tell you how poorly I have been treated there. The only doctors I like are the Obg-yn’s.
